It appears that studies are proving what those of us who have suffered abuse and bullying already knew. The most abusive and destructive hate comes from ourselves. And in part it is based on indoctrination taught in the church.
If you love because you are told that you have to, how true and honest is that love. The love that comes from commandments leads to followers setting up and creating guidelines for those to be love to meet and meet rewards of your consideration.
Unconditional love was what was biblically taught. Zealots make you earn it like shopper loyalty points.